Common Behaviours

"Behaviour is communication"....this is very common statement BUT it only scratches the surface.  If this is what you say when seeing and experiencing behaviours, you have taken the first step, which is having a growth mindset that you don't understand them YET.

Behaviours are so challenging and frustrating for all parties (children, educators and families) because each and every one of them is communicating something different and are communicated differently for each person.

There is no one set solution or a step-by-step process that will solve them all together.  If that were true...we all wouldn't be so confused.  

What we can do is go deeper into what the behaviours are communicating and work collaboratively to understand and solve them.  Dr. Ross Greene says behaviours are unsolved problems.  Working together to solve the problem is the way to more forward.

That is what you'll learn about in this mini training below!  Getting your mindset in the right place to see behaviours as unsolved problems and how to work collaboratively with the child and parents to come up with solutions.

But I also know that this takes time.  Not every unsolved problem can be solved at the same time.  So, this means you're going to be in the storm and still reeling with difficult and overwhelming meltdowns and times a child is in such deep distress.

What do you do when in the storm?  The video will walk you through the storm (from the tipping point to walking on egg shells after) and what to do.  This is a reactive moment, but you also need to know what to do in those moments that support ALL the children the best you can.

To take your learning further make sure to grab the guide on Taking A Holistic View On Common Behaviours. This guide is a framework of questions that help you look at behaviours through a holistic view for common behaviours such as biting, hitting, throwing and defiance.

Your fellow educator, Paola from Kinderoo Children's Academy had to say this, "In love with this new guide Veronica ! It’s an easy and practical guide that belongs in every classroom!"

After you watch the video and grab your guide, make sure to leave a comment on the blog below about this mini training or any unsolved problems you need help collaborating together on. 

This video is from a previous webinar series.

One of the resources below is social stories and can be used for a variety of situations such as hitting, biting, throwing....really anything! They combine simple descriptive sentences that focus on what the child might be feeling, how it affects others and what they can do with clear expectations...combined with visual pictures.  Use the resources below to help walk you through how to create one!

LINKS MENTIONED

Taking A Holistic View To Common Behaviours Guide

Feeling Faces

Social Stories Tip Sheet

Social Learning Stories Guidelines

Social Stories

Play Trees

When I Get Mad - Video Social Story

Social Story on Hitting - Video

Personal Space - Video Social Story